The Most Uncomfortable Place to be with "THE ONE" whom you love…

Fighting and bickering with your partner is a draining experience. It
is also one of the most uncomfortable and unwanted places to be with
the person you love. We’ve all been there and we’ll be there again. Yet,
ending a fight can be far less painful than you may believe. The next
time you are in the throws of wooden spoons, and less than loving
language spewing from your lips that you’d never want your mother or
your children to hear, just STOP… in attempt to get your point across—-or to ‘be right’. Just STOP!!

Take a deep breath and count to five… then politely and calmly say to
your partner: “What do you need from me?” This is not merely asking
your partner ‘what they need’—-rather you are asking your partner,
‘what they need from you’, allowing him/her to feel validated in that
you are listening and interested in helping them get their needs met. Then be still
and quiet while she/he responds. I promise you, that at that moment, the
focus will shift, and issues between you will begin to brighten and
lighten up, emotionally for you both.

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